FMTY stands for Fly Me To You. It means that instead of meeting me in Belgium, you invite me to join you wherever you are, and I travel to meet you there.
You’ll see the term on plenty of companion websites, but it’s rarely explained properly. So let me walk you through how it works, what I ask for, and why a well-planned FMTY date can be the most relaxed way to spend time together.
What FMTY Means
FMTY is short for Fly Me To You: you arrange the travel, and I come to you.
It might be a few days in a city where you have business, a weekend at a villa, or a longer trip with several stops. Its quieter cousin is TMTY, Train Me To You, which suits shorter distances within Europe. From Brussels, a fast train can have me in Paris, Amsterdam or Cologne in a couple of hours, often quicker than flying once you count the airport.
The idea is the same either way. You stay in your world, and I arrive ready to share it.
How a Fly Me To You Invitation Works
A Fly Me To You invitation starts with a short message and ends with everything confirmed well before I pack.
This is roughly how it unfolds:
1. Your first message. Tell me the city, the dates and a little about the occasion. Is it a business trip with free evenings, a holiday, an event?
2. My personal reply. I read every enquiry myself and answer honestly, including whether the dates suit me.
3. Shaping the plan. We agree on how long we’ll spend together and a rough idea of the days. Rough is the important word here, because the best trips leave room for surprises.
4. Securing the booking. A non-refundable retainer confirms an FMTY engagement. You’ll find the details on my rates and etiquette page.
5. Confirming the travel. Flights or trains, the hotel and local transport are confirmed in advance, so on the day there’s nothing left to worry about.
What I Ask For: Notice, Travel and Time to Rest
To arrive at my best, I ask for good notice, comfortable travel and a little time to myself each day.
FMTY engagements begin from 24 hours. Anything shorter rarely makes sense once travel is included, and I’d much rather arrive unhurried than spend our time watching the clock.
For the trip itself, I travel business or first class and stay in five-star hotels. That isn’t vanity. It means I step off the plane rested, dressed for the occasion and in the mood to enjoy every hour with you.
On longer trips, I also ask for a little personal time each day: an hour at the spa, a walk on my own, a quiet coffee with a book. It keeps me fresh, and you’ll notice the difference over dinner.
As for notice, the more the better, above all for international trips. Flights and good hotels both reward early planning.
Making the Most of Our Time Once I Arrive
The best FMTY dates feel easy from the very first evening.
I like to arrive, freshen up and meet you for a drink before dinner, so we can slip into each other’s company gently rather than diving straight into a busy schedule. After that, it depends on you. Perhaps there’s a gala, a client dinner or simply a city you’d like to explore with someone who enjoys it as much as you do.
I speak English and Dutch, a little Spanish, and I’m happiest at a good table, in a gallery, at the spa or wandering a neighbourhood I’ve never seen before. The places nobody planned to visit often turn out to be the best part.
FMTY or Meeting in Belgium: Which Suits You?
If you’re already travelling, FMTY is usually the more natural choice. If your diary is flexible, meeting in Belgium can be just as lovely.
FMTY works well when you have a busy schedule abroad and want your free hours to feel like a holiday. Meeting in Belgium suits shorter evenings, and it lets me show you my favourite corners of Brussels, Antwerp or Bruges, especially at this time of year, when the Christmas markets are lighting up every square.
If you love the idea of travelling together from the start, my thoughts on being a luxury travel companion might inspire you.
FAQ: Fly Me To You
What does FMTY stand for? Fly Me To You. You invite me to join you in your city and arrange the travel, and I come to meet you. TMTY, Train Me To You, works the same way by rail.
What is the minimum length of an FMTY engagement? My FMTY engagements begin from 24 hours and can extend to several days.
Who arranges the flights and hotel? You do, and everything is confirmed in advance. I travel business or first class and stay in five-star hotels.
Do you travel outside Europe? Yes. I’m based in Belgium but available worldwide. International trips just need a little more notice.
Plan Your Fly Me To You Escape
FMTY is really about one thing: making it easy for us to spend time together, wherever life takes you.
You’ll find all the practical details on my page about travelling as your FMTY companion. When you’re ready, send me a message with your city and dates, and I’ll reply personally.
Advance reservations are recommended for travel and extended engagements.